Good Grief

Chances are, you’ve lost something in your lifetime for good. A watch, that beautiful wedding ring, the backpack you had since 7th grade, or something else that has special value to you. The first thing you probably did was search for the item endlessly believing it still could be found. Of course, not being able to find it made you angry. You may have even started to think of what you’d give up in order to get your item back. Ultimately, you accept the fact that the back pack is just gone.

The steps you go through when you lose something are actually very similar to those we go through when we lose a loved one or find out that we ourselves are going to die soon. This cycle we appear to go through is called the Five Stages of Grief.

We are all going to die and consequently we are all going to have to deal with the loss of others. The best thing we can do is live our lives to the fullest and understand that there is a path to acceptance that we can work our way through slowly or quickly. The Fall of Freddie the Leaf by Leo Buscaglia is a great book that explains the life cycle in a few short, picture filled, pages.