Go to Google and type in the “simple” word love. I’ll wait here while you go and do that, *sips coffee while waiting*. Okay, all set? You should have blitz back with about 1,680,000,000 results in approximately 0.16 seconds. Thank you Google, what would we ever do without you?
Many of the links you could choose from this lovely list (I’m terrible at puns so I will refrain from trying anymore) is about the science of love. If we listen to the scientists love is a constellation of chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin working in the pineal and other glands.
For those of you that might be confused about love you actually wont find a Love for Dummies book in your search. This greatly surprised me because they have those books for EVERYTHING else. What you will find however, is Relationships for Dummies and even, you guessed it, Sex for Dummies. This brings us to the idea of love and sex being interrelated. A small step for man, a giant leap for humanity. Or, something like that.
Different from the science, quite apart from sex, yet another source, The Bible, tells us that love is to exist between a man and a woman. The Bible has quite a lot to say on the subject of love.
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
It is not self-seeking, nor easily angered.
It keeps no record of wrongdoing. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
People think about love in multitudes of different ways. What love means to one person means something different to the next and to the next. So why then do we throw this word around so easily? A sixteen year old girl is in love with her boyfriend after the first date. In each relationship we’ve found the man or woman of our dreams. Gay or straight, male or female, we as a society throw around the word love too much. It’s too complex for us to say “I love”, “I love” so much. Love is a wonderful, dangerous, rare, emotion in my opinion.
The book Reflections on a Gift of a Watermelon Pickle by Stephen Dunning is a great little book of poems. These are not specifically love poems. Give it a read though and see if you can tell why I included it with this post. Or, just read it and ignore this post. Whichever! =)